Where Do My Yeses Come From? Worksheet
A one-page exercise you can print or fill in on screen. Stop people pleasing, one small, kind no at a time.
How to use it
Tick each statement that’s true for you most weeks.
What's on the page
- My total ticks
- The yes I regret most from this week
- What it cost me (time, energy, money, mood)
Plus a checklist, including:
- I often say yes before I’ve checked whether I have time.
- I feel guilty for days after turning someone down.
- When I do say no, I give a long explanation.
- If someone pushes back on my no, I usually give in.
- I rehearse excuses before I turn someone down.
- I feel quietly resentful toward people who ask me for things.
- My own plans are usually the first ones to move.
- IL avoid asking for help because I don’t want to be a bother.
- People describe me as “always there” or “so easygoing.”
- I can’t remember the last time I had a free weekend I planned myself.
This page comes from Disappoint Someone Today.
The book walks through when to use it, with examples. It's from Chapter 1.
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More free pages from Disappoint Someone Today
- My First Three Rungs
- Starter Noes Checklist
- My Yes: Payoff and Price
- My Yes Map
- The Three-Question Filter
- Write Your Own Kind, Short No
- The Kind, Short No Pocket Card
- Build Your No Ladder
- My Practice Log
- My Workload Reality Check
- My New Role at the Family Table
- Repair a No That Came Out Badly
- What I’ll Do When They Push
- Run the Guilt Check
- Calendar Audit and Weekly Plan
- 30-Day Practice Plan
- The Two-Minute Inside Check
© Blake Tenney. Free to share with credit, not for sale (CC BY-NC 4.0). General self-help information, not medical or professional advice.